The Power of Choosing Aloneness

As it turns out, one of the main feelings we typically try very hard not to feel, is one of our best and most effective pathways to true emotional freedom and wellbeing.

I am speaking about Loneliness or Chosen Aloneness.

When we step into loneliness or aloneness, we change the course of how this feeling affects us. If we accept loneliness and feel it fully, then eventually, we won’t feel the need to try and resist it. We try to resist feeling lonely, because it is such a difficult feeling to feel for most of us, until we let go and invite ourself into the feeling. There are many unhelpful ways we resist feeling lonely; addiction, disassociation, codependency, numbing out, technology, over or under eating, are just some ways we resist feeling loneliness.

When we allow ourselves to feel lonely, then follow it up with meditation, other grounding behaviors, or healthy connection, the feeling of loneliness loses its power over us, and we can allow it to be felt as it needs to organically. We are in essence, building a tolerance for a normal feeling, and rather than expending our energy to not feel a feeling, we can accept it, feel it, and use our energy to participate in healthy connection with ourselves and others.

Loneliness is a part of the feeling state of Grief, and as such, should be honored and felt, as much deep personal growth occurs in the deep Grief.